AS FEATURED IN…

I see you, sister.

Your body, once familiar, now feels foreign. Aching joints, unpredictable weight shifts, a libido that flickers like a faulty lightbulb.

Some days, it feels like your sensuality has packed up and left without a forwarding address.

And yet—somewhere inside you, she’s still there.

The woman who used to feel the pulse of desire running through her veins.
The woman who once got turned on by the way the wind kissed her skin.
The woman who knows—deep down—that she is not meant to fade.

Midlife can be full of challenges…

With the physical & mental discomfort of perimenopause and menopause, like…

  • Losing your libido

  • Sex may become painful, or numb

  • Your body changing shape

  • Aging parents that need care

  • Growing kids

  • Strained relationships, or a separation

and…..

  • A society that does not see your value as a woman in full bloom,

midlife is a time that you need support.

The truth about Midlife (that no one tells you)

They talk about the hot flashes, the mood swings, the weight gain, and all the supplements you can take.

But they don’t talk about the grief and confusion.

The deep, aching loss of the woman you used to be.

They don’t talk about how isolating it feels when your body no longer looks or feels the way it once did.

They don’t talk about the moments when sex feels like more of a chore than a pleasure, or the nights when you wonder if you’ll ever feel that spark again.

Or that sex has become painful, and your partner is frustrated, confused, impatient. 

There might be more conflict or distance as you negotiate sex in a whole new way.

All you know is that many things don’t work for you anymore.  

But here’s that I want you to know:

Your body isn’t broken. It’s evolving.

  • Your pleasure isn’t gone. It’s waiting to have its definition expanded.   

  • Your sexuality isn’t over. It’s transforming into something even more potent IF you learn how to work with it.

Please do not try to resurrect the younger you.
Instead - invoke the most radiant, turned-on, empowered version of you yet.

this is not the end of sex!

it’s a new, delicious era - to discover your authentic erotic self

Eva explains how Sex Magick can fuel your success.

Pleasure is All For YOU now.

Imagine…

  • WANTING sex again.

  • Feeling love for your changing body, as the beautiful miracle you are.

  • Owning & rocking your age in a way that exudes power and magnetism.

  • Experiencing pleasure on your terms and expressing your desires without hesitation.

  • Intimacy is easeful & PLEASURABLE for you again (or for the first time)!

  • SEX is no longer a chore that you endure

  • Cultivating deeper emotional intimacy with your partner(s).

  • ENJOYING sex more than ever before, without the hangups, people-pleasing or self-consciousness you used to have.

Welcome to

the erotic midlife circle

a live, virtual Community to redefine sexuality - in midlife and beyond.

For Women 45+ ONLY.

With Eva Clay, Acclaimed Psychotherapist and Clinical Sexologist, MSW, LCSW

 "Midlife doesn’t have to be a slow descent into invisibility.


It’s an Invitation to bloom into your most beautiful, turned-on self."

THERE’S NO DOUBT - sEX CHANGES AS YOU AGE

let’s make it an upgrade.


  • Midlife isn’t a malfunction. It’s a neuroendocrine shift—a recalibration of your hormones, nervous system, and brain chemistry that can upgrade to deeper, more authentic and satisfying sexuality.

  • Your libido isn’t broken, it’s shifting from spontaneous to responsive desire.

  • With the right practices, you can rewire your neural pathways to enjoy sex - more than ever before.

  • Through somatics and pleasure-based neuroplasticity, you can train your body to feel safe, open, and receptive to joy. 

  • Your body isn’t betraying you—it’s inviting you into a new way of being….deeper, wilder, and more expansive than ever before.

  • And in the Erotic Midlife Circle, you’ll learn the science-backed, soul-led practices that awaken your desire.

An Erotic Midlife Means Understanding Your New Body & Brain.

“Get your mojo back, ladies!”

I came into this Circle after a nasty divorce. After 20 years of marriage and 3 kids, I was terrified and yet excited. Eva and the Sisterhood loved me back to life. I now feel confident, sexy, and have men chasing me. Even MUCH younger men! The funny thing is - I thought I wanted another partnership, but now I just want to have fun! It’s finally MY time!”

- Helen Miranda, MBA, Investor

“Eva’s Work renewed My Confidence.”

It was an absolutely delicious deep dive into the heart of sacred feminine sexuality. My heart is still aflame with appreciation for each beautiful Goddess in our circle — our sisterhood has transformed me. My heart is clear that I yearn to call in my life partner…. and after Erotic Midlife I am ready. Eva is a wise, embodied guide who will lead you powerfully into your sensual power.

- Keri C., Realtor

Turn-On Takes more than just lingerie, toys, or ‘being in the mood’.

For the midlife woman especially, desire is a magnificent interplay between your erotic psyche, your nervous system, brain and hormones.

The Erotic Midlife is based on Eva’s Five Pillars of Feminine Sexual Awakening:

PILLAR 1

Permission: You are celebrated to be exactly who and what you want to be.

PILLAR 2

Expression : Safety allows you to bring your most authentic self forward.

PILLAR 3

Sensual Embodiment : Training your brain to attune to sensations builds the neural pathways of sexual arousal.

PILLAR 4

Somatic Education : Tracking and regulating your nervous system primes your body for pleasure.

PILLAR 5

Connection : Female arousal relies on emotional attunement and permission from a sex-positive culture.

MEet your Guide

Eva Clay, MSW, LCSW

I know this path because I’ve walked it.

For five long years I journeyed the underworld of perimenopause. My body felt like a stranger. My libido took a nosedive. Pleasure felt distant, and my identity as a sensual woman seemed to slip through my fingers.  And even though I’m a sex therapist with all the tools and knowledge, I struggled, too.

But I refused to believe that was the end of my sexuality or my radiance.

Being the academic I am, I went deeper into the neuroscience, nervous system functioning, the science of sexual arousal, and somatic healing - specific to the mid-life woman.

Because what worked for me at 35 didn’t work for me anymore at 50.

And what I found wasn’t just a new frontier of eros — it was power.

A little bit more about my background…

I’ve been a sex educator, somatic psychotherapist, and academic for 25 years. 

*(If you’re interested, you can see my certifications & training at the bottom of this page).  

I’ve studied and practiced Tantra, Sexual Polarity, Authentic Relating, Sexual Shamanism, Erotic Blueprints and so much more. I learned there is a technology to attraction and fulfilling sex that empowers us to have wildly harmonious and passionate relationships for the long term.

This is now what I offer you, with passion: 25 years of practice and academic study combined with my own lived experience.

Through the menage a’ trois of soul, science and sex, and an elegant marriage of the profound wiht the playful, I’m on a mission to inspire your intimate life.

May your relationships be wildly fulfilling, deeply devoted, and endlessly enchanted.

I’m told I give good permission.

Including Incredible guest teachers such as:

  • Dr. Cari Schaefer, DACM

    Doctor of Holistic Medicine, 'Your Menopause Midwife".

    “Caring for Your Menopausal Body.”

  • Devi Ward Erickson

    Founder of the Institute of Authentic Tantra Education.

    “Yoni Yoga & Orgasmic Awareness Practice”

  • Dr. Jennifer Lang, MD

    Integrative Gynecologist and Preventative Oncologist

    “Sex, Libido & Hormone Replacement Therapy.“

  • Marla Mervis-Hartmann

    Body Confidence Coach, Founder of 'Love Your Body, Love Yourself'.

    “Be-Friend Your Body & Make Peace with Food”

  • Dr. Lisa Valle, DO

    Integrative Sexual Health Physician

    “Vaginal Health in Midlife”

  • Christina Morassi

    Founder of ‘The Feminine Operating System.’

    “The Raw Power of the Dark Feminine, Turn-on and Taboo.”

  • Rahi Chun & Ariel Szabo

    Certified Somatic Sex Educators and Sexological Bodyworkers

    “Healing Sexual Trauma with Plant Medicines.”

  • Pauline Drossart

    Founder of Shakti School

    “Kundalini Yoga for Sexual Vitality & Radiance.”

  • Tracey Trottenberg-Kansas

    Founder of Amazing Women International

    “Creating a Visionary Relationship in Midlife.”

“I discovered a whole new power within me.”

I came to this Eva feeling isolated and ashamed about entering this stage of life. Eva’s work was totally transformative. Through it, I rediscovered the confidence to honor my inner voice. With Eva’s guidance, instead of ruminating on romantic relationships, I channeled my erotic energy into launching an exciting new business! I feel renewed energy and inspiration to achieve my dreams, and I’m not letting hangups about me age stop me!

I wholeheartedly endorse Eva’s expertise. It’s an empowering space for any woman navigating the inevitable changes that come with midlife.

- Donna Dyer, Founder of QuantumNap

“I was always shy and shut-down. Now at 55 I’m ready to enjoy myself!”

This has been the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I was always afraid to own my feminine power, much less my pleasure. My marriage became stale because I was in my head all the time, and plus - sex started to hurt! Now I bring my husband my ‘Lalita’ - my pleasure and playfulness. We’re both SO happy about it.

- Susan, Business Owner

Details

The Erotic Midlife is an on-going program with three month cycles.

We meet every 2nd and 4th Wednesday of the month.

12pm PT / 3pm ET

Each session is 90 minutes.

All sessions are recorded for replay

We begin Wednesday, June 4

Founding member pricing available now until june 4.

pricing will increase for our second cycle in Sep. 2025

3 Monthly payments of

$250

Founding Member Pricing

Single payment (save $55)

$695

Founding Member pricing

Pay for three months and save.

The Erotic Midlife Includes…

Guest Teachers & High-Level Experts
 Renowned experts join us. Somatic therapists, intimacy coaches, and nervous system specialists guide you deeper into pleasure, confidence, and embodiment.

Private Online Community
 A sacred space for authentic connection where we share, celebrate, and integrate—surrounded by women walking this path beside you.

Sensual Wellness & Sexual Vitality
 Explore hormonal balance, pelvic floor health, libido shifts, and how to reclaim your erotic energy in a way that works for you.

A Circle of Wise, Embodied Women 45+
 This isn’t self-improvement—it’s self-remembrance. Here, you are seen, celebrated, and supported in your full radiance.

A Reimagining of Your Erotic Life
 Midlife is not the end of sensuality. It’s the beginning of a deeper, more powerful connection to pleasure.

Live Interactive Sessions
 Two live interactive calls per month via Zoom. Each features a mix of sensual embodiment, nervous system wisdom, and intimate group coaching.

FAQs

  • YES. It’s a perfect time to transform old beliefs and replace them with new, empowering, pleasure-full practices that shift your “story”.


  • YES. Many women (typically almost half) who attend this course are in long-term partnerships. The material we cover will absolutely shift your relationship (and you) for the better. This course also honors non-monogamous relationships.

  • We meet live for two hours per week, one hour for class, and one hour for Love Lab (optional). Including the practices, you can expect 2.5 hours per week. Of course, the more you participate, the deeper your transformation.

  • Absolutely. All of our content is trauma-informed, and designed to support the unique journey of trauma survivors. If you have significant unresolved trauma, we do suggest to attend concurrent trauma therapy.

“I’ve never been happier in my skin!”

I thought my sex life was over because I was too old. I had no idea I was just going about it all wrong - that trying so hard to be young again was actually preventing me from “graduating” to the next phase. I thought I may never have a partner again. But thanks to Eva’s knowledge and support, I’m now in a solid relationship and having the best sex of my life. The Erotic Midlife was a game-changer - every woman should have this knowledge!

- Gloria, Financial Advisor

It’s a live, experiential sisterhood with live coaching, support, education and practices.

It’s the beginning of the most liberated era of your life.

THE EROTIC MIDLIFE
IS NOT JUST ANOTHER ONLINE COURSE

  • Somatic Experiencing for trauma healing, with Peter Levine, Ph.D

  • Trauma Resolution methodologies with Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D., and Babette Rothschild, LCSW.

  • Interpersonal Neurobiology with Dan Siegel, M.D.

  • Relational Gestalt Therapy - 12 years of formal training at Esalen Institute and Pacific Gestalt Institute.

  • Sexual Tantra: 15 years - with Dawn Cartwright, Shakti Malan, Charles Muir, and many others.

  • Hypnotherapy - Two certifications, in Eriksonian Hypnosis and Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy.

  • Kundalini Yoga (KRI Certified) with Guru Singh at Yoga West in Los Angeles.

  • Mindfulness-Based Self-Compassion with Kristin Neff, Ph.D

  • Somatic Internal Family Systems (IFS) or “Parts Work”.

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS) for Psychedelic-Assisted Psychotherapy with Heather Smith, LPC, of The Moxie School.

  • Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy, The Ketamine Training Center with Bessel van der Kolk, M.D and Phil Wolfson, M.D.

  • Psychobiological Couples Therapy (PACT) with Stan Tatkin, Ph.D.

  • Couples Therapy Training with Esther Perel, LMFT.

  • Imago Couples Therapy with Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.

  • Gottman Couples Therapy with John Gottman, Ph.D.

  • Embodied Relational Sex Therapy with Stella Resnick, Ph.D.

*eva holds certifications and training in: